If my life were a movie this would be my theme song. I know that I'm always saying I LOVE THIS SONG! And I do actually love most music, but this song at this point in my life is exactly what I need to hear.
At twenty years of age I’m still looking for a dream
A war's already waged for my destiny
But you've already won the battle
And you've got great plans for me
Though i can’t always see
`cause i got a couple dents in my fender
Got a couple rips in my jeans
Try to fit the pieces together
But perfection is my enemy
On my own I’m so clumsy
But on your shoulders i can see
I'm free to be me
When i was just a girl i thought i had it figured out
My life would turn out right, and I’d make it here somehow
But things don't always come that easy
And sometimes i would doubt
`cause i got a couple dents in my fender
Got a couple rips in my jeans
Try to fit the pieces together
But perfection is my enemy
On my own I’m so clumsy
But on your shoulders i can see
I'm free to be me
And you’re free to be you
Sometimes i believe that i can do anything
Yet other times i think I’ve got nothing good to bring
But you look at my heart and you tell me
That I’ve got all you seek
And it’s easy to believe
Even though
`cause i got a couple dents in my fender
Got a couple rips in my jeans
Try to fit the pieces together
But perfection is my enemy
On my own I’m so clumsy
But on your shoulders i can see
I'm free to be me
There are so many reasons this song is my theme song. First off, I'm not twenty but I'm pretty close to 20 and feel/felt completely lost. I know he has a great plan for me, but sometimes I have trouble seeing what it is I'm supposed to be doing.
Before moving to Mississippi I thought I had it all figured out. I'd get a good job, we would have insurance and more money than we would know what to do with, but like the song said sometimes things don't come that easy and I started to doubt.
For those who had the pleasure of knowing me while I was growing up, haha, you know that I'm so clumsy and I really do allow perfection to be my enemy. I'm an all or nothing person. So if you come into my house and it is clean most of the time it will be completely clean. If you come in and it is dirty well I suggest you leave because it won't get any prettier. If things are not going to be perfectly done I don't like to do them, I'd rather not do anything at all!
The last portion of the song "Sometimes i believe that i can do anything, Yet other times i think I’ve got nothing good to bring. But you look at my heart and you tell me that I’ve got all you seek, And it’s easy to believe"
I've got all you seek. I have a heart that is open and wants to know more. An imperfect heart that needs and wants Gods love to overflow into my life. He isn't seeking my perfection just my loving heart.
So in case I forget, once I am rich and famous and they are making a movie about life before I was rich and famous, this song has to be my theme song. It will play when things start changing in my life, kind of like "Eye of the Tiger" for Rocky. haha
Love believes all things, hopes all things --1 Corinthians 13:7
One of the dares for this week encouraged us to write down everything we love and dislike about our spouse. When I sat down to write out my lists I wasn't sure where I should even start. There are so many reasons I love Tyler and so many things I love about him. The purpose of the lesson was that there are good things and bad things in our relationship but if we focus on the good things and not the negative things the positive will outweigh the bad.
While my list of nice things about Tyler was far too long to share everything, I'll share a few of the reasons I love him :)
He gets me. As simple as that he just gets me. He can walk in the door look at me and know how my day went, what he needs to say to make it better or if he just needs to stay out of the way until the storm passes.
He never judges me. With the exception of my mom I have never spilled my heart so completely to one person. He knows everything about me and still loves me. We talk about everything, things I'm proud of and even things I'm ashamed to admit.
He never rolls his eyes when I say, "So I've been thinking..." Sometimes he chuckles but he always listens. He never tells me that I'm stupid or that I'm overreacting. Even if my thoughts are ridiculous he never says he thinks that they are outrageous. He gently points me in the right direction and I eventually decide I'm over thinking everything.
Of course then there are the obvious reasons I love him. He makes me laugh; he makes lots of people laugh. He is patient with me even when I'm being difficult. The man could talk to a wall and get the wall to talk back. He is the typical only child and doesn't mind when I tease him about not wanting to share. I fit perfectly in his nook while cuddling. He never quits, when looking for a graduate school Tyler's self-esteem took a couple blows but he didn't quit. After a brief pep talk he started calling professors again, which eventually led us to MSU. He encourages me to do my best and isn't offended when I push him to his best. He wants to be a great husband. Even if he and I aren't the perfect married couple we both are focused on making each other happy.
I could go on but it’s not necessary, I'm a very lucky woman. After making my lists I thanked Tyler for a few of the reasons I love him and hid the list of negative things. The next day the dare was to burn the negative list, but after all the fires in Starkville I decided to just shred it. Plus I liked the symbolism of shredding the list and throwing it away.
So it has been awhile again. So many different things have happened but for some reason I haven't wanted to blog about it maybe it's because I'm worried about who is or isn't reading my blog. Anyway I'm back and I'm going to update everyone.
LeRoy was sick and was super cuddly but now he is better and back to being super naughty. Even though we always say he is super naughty he does have his really sweet moments. This morning I really did not want to get up at 6:00 with him, but I climbed out of bed to take him potty. On my way out I "accidently" left our bedroom door open. Of course when LeRoy and I got back into the apartment he headed straight for our room. He hopped up on the bed and started jumping on Tyler to wake him up. I laid back down and it was AMAZING the sweet little dog just laid down on my feet and went to sleep! And he kept sleeping until I had to get up at 8:00!
I have officially registered for my courses this summer and fall. Its looking like I will be super busy again. I just need to get back into the swing of things.
Tyler and I have been participating in the Love Dare! It actually is really challenging! The very first day's dare is to not say anything negative!! Holy Cow you don't realize how many negative things you say to the person you love until you try not to be negative!
For instance it was toward the end of the day and Tyler was being so pokey. He said "Let's go to bed," which was what I wanted to hear, but then he just laid on the couch for like 40 seconds. I'm not sure why but it just made me mad! So I yelled, "Why are you always so pokey?!" Then I remembered that I was trying to not say anything negative all day. So when he asked what I meant I said, "never mind" which just made him mad! Yup...we were both feeling the love.
I know that some of the dares should come easy, but honestly the each day the dare for the day just doesn't seem to fit! One day was focused on being kind, which meant I had to buy something for Tyler that said I was thinking of him. When I read the dare, heaven help me, I honestly thought, "I don't have time to be kind today!"
Tyler on the other hand, seems to be accidentally falling into our dares without reading the book! One dare was to call your spouse in the middle of the day to see if they needed something. Before I went to work that day Tyler called to check on me and LeRoy. I automatically assumed he had read the book and was just completing the dare. Well on Friday night I reminded Tyler we needed to do our Group Session homework for Sunday and Tyler went "O yeah and I better read the last three days of Love Dare." Once we looked through them together we realized he actually had done each of the days and he never read the book! Here I am trying to find ways to fit these dares in and here he is just accidently completing them!
Before I started working I was bored to tears and now that I have a job I feel like Tyler and I are always busy! I think adding LeRoy to the mix definitely added to schedules but we are crazy about him! I had wanted a dog for so long so I knew I would love him, but I’m not sure what I love more, LeRoy or the way Tyler loves LeRoy. Tyler hates to hear him cry in his kennel so I’m already the bad cop while Tyler gets to be the good cop pulling him out of the kennel every time he cries. They are too cute together, Tyler teases me and says LeRoy loves him more. Which at first bothered me, but I know he doesn’t love Tyler more. He loves that Tyler lets him get away with being naughty!